War on Porn! - Extract 2

This is the second part of my book War on Porn! Prepare Your Mind for Battle, which can be downloaded free.  You can read Part 1 here.

STAGES OF CHANGE

Many years ago, researchers DiClemente and Prochaska identified the five stages a person typically goes through in overcoming problem behavior such as smoking, overeating and problem drinking. The stages are as follows:

·        Precontemplation: Not considering making a change.

·        Contemplation: Considering the possibility of making a change; possibly somewhat undecided.

·        Determination: Preparing to take serious action to make the change in the near future.

·        Action: They have a plan and are implementing it.

·        Maintenance: Less danger of returning to previous behavior, although there may at times be slips.

·        Termination: No longer tempted or afraid of the behavior.

For you to have picked up this book, you aren’t in the precontemplation stage. You are evidently already at least in contemplation. The questions in this book are designed to help you to move from contemplation to determination. Once you are there, you will find suggestions on how to move on to the action stage in my other book Porn Escape: Confidently Walk Free from thePrison of Pornography.

So, please, don’t die contemplating! Use this book to help you move from contemplation to determination. Make the change. Stand up and fight! Make the determination that you will never again torment yourself with the defeatist victim mentality of the porn addict. You have the potential to be living an entirely porn-free life this time next year. Studying this book is your first step.

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

Each section opens with a brief commentary. The comments are fairly direct, even blunt on occasion. Don’t be offended. I’m not having a go at you. I respect you greatly for your desire to get free from this trap. I simply want to jolt you into thinking clearly about these questions.

If you are a porn victim, it is because your mind has been corrupted — thoroughly corrupted, saturated with wrong ideas. Over the months, perhaps years, you’ve come to accept these fallacies as the truth. Now it’s time to challenge them robustly. You will be amazed, and appalled, that your mind got to be so thoroughly infected. Porn skews the mind; it introduces distorted thought patterns, which are then taken for granted. Soon it’s difficult to distinguish the truth about porn from wishful thinking. But it’s only the truth that will set you free. Be determined to get to it.

This book is intended to be read meditatively. In other words, you should think and reflect carefully on the questions that are asked. Listen to your conscience. Ask yourself: What do I really feel about this question? Make some notes. If you’re religious, pray about it. If not, just think deeply about it. Try hard to get in touch with your real feelings about porn use.

In an book chapter entitled “The Crystallization of Discontent in the Process of Major Life Change,” Roy Baumeister explained how people begin to make changes. He explains that “the crystallization of discontent” can be “understood as the forming of associative links between problems, conflicts, costs, objections, and other negative features of one’s involvement, so that a broad pattern of dissatisfaction and shortcoming is discerned.” The abstract of this article explains that “the crystallization of discontent links together . . . problems or costs that previously seemed unrelated” and that “a multitude of problems or costs can outweigh a broad pattern of positive features and benefits and can therefore provide the impetus to initiate a major change.” Reflecting on these questions can help you to crystallize your discontent with your present porn involvement and help you to make the major change you are starting to desire.

YOU CAN DO SOMETHING!

You don't have to be hooked on porn!  Millions of people live happily without porn.  You can be one of them.  

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In it, you'll learn more than a dozen techniques that can help you get free from your porn compulsion.  You will see:

• Why shame and guilt don't work as motivators and what you can do about it.
• What personality traits can help you overcome your porn dependence.
• Why positive thinking can be lethal to your escape from porn.
• How to develop an escape plan to deal with triggers.
• How to execute your escape plan with the confidence and skill of a pro.
• The right and wrong way to promote success through visualization.
• The winning formula for changing your actions.
• Why you should never count days of abstinence.

WHAT IS YOUR PORN ADDICTION COSTING YOU?

• Money?
• Time?
• Relationships?
• Opportunities to develop skills?
• Peace of mind?
• Clean conscience?